Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Hard to believe...

I almost missed it. It's hard for me to believe that it was a year ago Monday that I got on a bus and forever left my ex wife behind. I can't believe it's only been a year, it seems to have been so much longer. The U-haul ride down was the longest ride of my life. Yes, I drove her down, I needed the chaos and anger over so badly I was willing to do anything in my power.

The Greyhound ride home was an entirely different matter. I was conflicted and my head was swimming, but for the first time in a long time, I had peace. I was met by a very good friend (the future Lady of the House, though I had no clue at the time), and rode into my future.

Through the hell of it all (and never doubt for one second that divorce sucks), I've managed to learn a bit. The biggest thing I've learned is this: Uncertainty is entirely bearable, if you have good friends, good family, and the confidence in yourself to be willing to try difficult and new things.

I had no idea when I started this post that it would be so personal, but it is, and there you have it.



  1. Isn't it always amazing to look back on a horrible year and realize that, "I made it through this in one piece and I am even better for it." ? That is how I feel about my divorce every day now. Strange to think it has only been a year ago.

  2. As much as my heart broke and shattered the day you left me, you were right. The tension and the chaos is gone. Lets hope we both can learn from our mistakes and make the best possible future from it.

  3. I hope thtat you both learned a very good life lesson. You can rebuild from anything and you have to learn that life is about compromise and that is a two way street. Without it, nothing can endure. I love you both and hope with you both nothing but happiness in your futures. Love Mom